If you’re lucky enough to be one of those “kids” who has a great relationship with his/her parents, lives at home and you are satisfied with the meagre everyday 1k or monthly allowance, then you definitely have a life!(which in my own case is a low life).
However, for most of us, being an adult and living at home doesn’t always make for an ideal living situation. Sure, there are situations where living at home with mom and dad is beneficial, even necessary. But if you’re over 25 years old (but I'm not 25, just a couple far from it) and still sleeping in a twin size bed, I'm wondering what you’re doing with your life, it’s time to raise up out of your parents’ house and find your own spot(with or without a job).
One of the following short listed reasons must be particular to you and if it is then you understand what I, you and other youths are going through.
NO ROOM FOR STUFFS AFTER UNIVERSITY
Not only is it difficult to find space for you and your friends to hang out(in my own case there's children living room but not enough for grown adult like me), you may not also have room for your personal things, especially if you’re sharing a room with someone (I'm not, thank God. *smiles*). After 4 years of UNI, I managed to accumulate things and none of it fit into my room at home when I moved back home. I can't place my precious Arsenal wallpapers on the wall because it's again CAC tenets(my church of life). They also may not want you to clutter their home with your things and use it for storage so you’re limited to buying what fits in the confines of the four walls of your bedroom. If you find yourself longing for a new bedroom set, or a huge flat screen TV, then you should find your own apartment to put it in.
NO PRIVACY
If you suffer from the reason above, it is safe to say you probably have no room for privacy either. If you start dating someone, bringing them back to your “room” for some action probably isn’t so hot – not with mom and dad roaming around the house freely. So sex is pretty much out of the question unless you get busy at a hotel or the back seat of your car or even go to an uncle's place. You can’t even have a conversation on the phone without your younger sisters ear hustling (eavesdropping) and you basically feel trapped because there’s nowhere to go to have a little “me” time. If this is you and whether you have a decent job or not, save up and move out asap.
RULES
Depending on how old-school your folks are, living at home means following their rules (tunde 'laleye will understand better, gbenga should too). Whether this means coming in at a certain hour to check your room, not being able to stay out over-night, doing chores (washing cars especially, that's the motivation for this post) or anything else your parents require you to do while living under their roof, if their rules don’t sit well with you, then you can get a teaching job( because of limited opportunities in iseyin) and if in cities you can get a temporary job so that you can move out and save your sanity. After all, it is their house and if you’re not paying rent or u didn't build it, you really can’t tell them “no,” can you? Well, maybe you can, but they’d probably tell you you are grown behind to move out and pay your own rent and follow your own rules. Can’t say that I blame them.
I'M A SLOB.
Speaking of chores, if you’re a slob like I am, then living at home with you is probably a nightmare. While I’d hope that one would be clean and neat even while living on his own, you don’t HAVE to wash dishes in your own place if you don’t want to. When you live alone, you don’t have to do laundry for a month if you don’t feel like it, and you can leave your clothes all over the place and no one can say boo(shout at you) about it. Again, I’m not saying being a slob is cute, but if you’re tired of your mom nagging you to pick up your trousers or to move your shoes out of her way, then get your own place and be lazy and sloppy to your heart’s content. Just make sure to clean up before girlfie comes over.
YOUR POTENTIAL
I'm not saying you can't fulfill your potentials by living under your parents but there are a lot of stuff you can't do, a lot of dreams you can't realize. There are career you want to chase but you are under them and they are not supporting. It's time to move out. Even you might end up not actualizing the potentiality of marriage. As a guy, no lady is going to respect a man who is staying with parents. Why not leave the nest and fly so high in freedom?
And people say it's our culture to stay with your
folks till you marry. We are in the 21st century, there are no more tribalistic cultures but a global culture. And the global culture is you are free to stay on your own once you are 18. Sometimes Some people stay at home longer than they want to because their parents expect them to stay there – either to keep them company or until they get married. Maybe this is something parents expect more from their daughters than their sons.
If you have a younger sibling who requires a babysitter, consider yourself that babysitter. Your parents will expect you to watch him or her – for free – and without complaint, which could dampen your plans on a Friday night. If you live at home, you’re the live-in nanny. It's not bad to babysit, I can do it all year long but it must come with pay or some sort of compensation. If only I have a brother with a baby or an uncle or aunt to babysit for....... It'd make more sense to stay with them for three months then get enough pay when leaving. That's why I envy Gbenga,Deji and Amanda (awon babysitters of eternity).
So instead of nagging about what you are facing while leaving under your parents; work hard, get a job or get jobs, save up and move out before you see what they do to you as insults and save your sanity.
Stopping here, gotta go cash for him at the bank.... one I must do since I'm not an owner of an apartment. LEAVE THE NEST!!
