Earn Your Self Respect Back.

After learning how not to give a f**k...... I can only assume that we must have lost our self respect for people to treat us anyhow. And people treating us as they want is the reason why we don give a f**k.
Ok. Just for you to start your week with greatness, here are few ways for you to gain your self respect back.

STEP 1- ACCEPT, OR DEAL WITH, AWKWARDNESS.


It’s widely known that interviewers get their best material by being quiet and allowing silence to force words out of a politician or celebrity.
You may be uncomfortable with silence. I know I still am. But I have been working on it and have to say that it is a much more serene state to be in than trying to cover it up with random babbling just to fill up the air. This is one type of awkwardness, a kind that you should feel comfortable about and learn to live with.
Another kind of social awkwardness is this in-between space where you might have done something wrong or been wronged, but don’t say anything. I’ve been given a few harsh lessons in my time and come away realizing that the freedom that comes from talking about an uncomfortable truth is better than the comfort of avoiding that talk altogether.
Someone told me recently that the Clintons’ method for earning respect in politics is this: if someone pushes you, push back twice as hard. This is much better than awkwardness. It’s clear, it’s not passive aggressive, and you know where you stand. Start doing this immediately.


STEP 2. TELL THE TRUTH.

You don’t need to be an asshole, but the world does not need another conflict-avoidant, evasive person. No one wants another individual who steps in line with everyone else. The status quo is doing fine without you, so it’s up to you to call bullshit if you see it.
Don’t mind-read either. Telling the truth means seeing the truth, not adding your own layer of sugar coating or suspected emotion on top of it.


Step 3- LEARN HOW NOT TO DISRESPECT YOURSELF.

One thing is it is what you do to yourself, that people will do to you. A yoruba saying that "oun ti alaso ba pe aso e ni a maa ba pe" meaning it's what the owner of a cloth calls it that people will call it. That is if you say your shirt is a rag, people will call it rag. So if you want to gain yourself respect back, you must first learn how to respect yourself.

Step 4- ADJUST YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

It is very evidential that people take people with NO or LOW self-esteem for granted. This is as a result of the fact that too many people see themselves as nothing. Even if you've got nothing, carry yourself like you own the whole world. This is not pride, it is self esteem. From a popular Bollywood movie "3 idiot" Raju Rastogi was able to get the job because he adjusted his self esteem and was not lowering himself because he wanted a job. He acted like a made man of his words.
If we don't raise our shoulders a little high sometimes people won't appreciate us.


STEP 5. BEGIN YOUR NEW LIFE
This step can’t happen without the others, but once you’ve gotten here, you can safely begin to explore a whole new world– one where anything you do is fine as long as it isn’t seriously hurting anyone else. Wanna explore old abandoned buildings? No problem, as long as you’re ready to live with the consequences. Feel like hanging from hooks or get whipped by a dominatrix? Go ahead, but be safe about it. This is the theme of the NOUVEAU MOI(new me) I ranted about on BBM some weeks back. You have to accept that the old you is gone with feelings of not been respected and embrace the new you.

Once you begin on this path, you start to discover that practically everyone is capable of understanding the weird things that you do. In fact, it makes you interesting and worth paying attention to, further feeding into your plans of world domination, should you have any.
But none of this fun can happen without you recognizing, and walking past, the eye. Doing this is a powerful act of control which builds momentum and makes you strong.
Take back your self respect. Do it today– try it right now. Wear something ugly. Do something stupid. Tell someone the truth.
It doesn’t fucking matter.

With all this I believe people will start respecting you and your decisions and they will know that when they lose you, they Lost someone valuable.

HAVE A WONDERFUL WEEK AHEAD OF YOU.