The Tear Rubber and Tokunbo Phenomenon

These days it is very difficult to see tear rubber. As a typical Naija guy or lady, you'd know what a tear rubber is. But for the uncouth ajebutter , tear rubber is when you get an object new and it's covered with nylon or any sort of covering. If you get anything as tear rubber, evidently you will be the one to tear the rubber and start using it. So in more of the realistic sense, tear rubber is more of a new thing and you are the sole confirmation of the authenticity of the status of it's newness.

To every one side, there's an other side. Do you relate? To every word, there's surely an opposite of it or a relatively close word that antagonizes it. In this locus, what the opposite of Tear rubber is, is Tokunbo. We all know tokunbo now..... Anyways it's what we profoundly and proudly call fairly used. In that sense it must have been used by a former procurer or series of owner.

This is more of a metaphorical inclination of my nirvana (Buddhism heaven) .

These two adjectives are more controversial in the business world, as some find ultimate accomplishment in getting a tear rubber because they want to be able flaunt it that they used it first. And some go for Tokunbo as they believe it has been used before and has faced the realities of the road.

But despite the subjectivity in choice, people still go around to criticize one another. Those who go for tear rubber see the tokunbo lovers as people who love cheap things. On the other hand tokunbo lovers see the tear rubber buyers as people who take the ''newness'' of an object to a whole new level, because they have the notion that whether new or old, you are using thesame object and they don't care about the effectiveness.

Now lemme break it down. Tear rubber = Virgins , Tokunbo = non virgins.

One of the most interesting quandaries to ever surface from the dating pool is whether or not dating a virgin is still a man's preference. In a world where sexual promiscuity is rampant and the practicing of abstinence has all but died out, just about everyone is having sex — so much so that deciding between virgins and non-virgins almost seems useless.

Ladies whether you are a virgin or not, never respect a man who ask you whether you are a virgin or not unless he's a pastor and as a pastor you should understand people have their past(s). The problemtation (thanks to DR Idowu Williams) of the Tear rubber and Tokunbo phenomenon emanated mostly from the lustrous desires of men (a debate for another day).

The problem with most men is that they want to have their cake and eat it to. They want to sleep with as many women as they like, yet frown on women who do the same.
And therein lies the problem: Guys find women for one-night stands, but they're extremely reluctant to settle down with women whose sexual history is just as colorful as their own.

So how is one supposed to find a virgin when "holding out" is considered passé, and women are pressured to put out?

We should put aside whether a girl is a tear rubber or tokunbo, what should be the first skin of our thoughts is to love a lady in rain and sunshine(Tho' some ladies level of promiscuity is un-withstand-able) . Some girls just like cars could be tear rubber got their own mechanical fault deep inside of them due to rustiness and the rationale that since they are virgins, they are pure and different. I'm not saying going for a virgin is bad, infact girls who keep their seal should be applauded because where in a century where hymen intactness is degrading.
But while do you have to discourage people who wants to go for a tokunbo when you know you won't go for them? Have you ever heard of redemption of glory? A glory can be restored..... Not that a virginity can get back to you thigh opening but there can be a sense of feeling a whole again, it's a thing of the mind.

I know that this is the 21st century, and most people nowadays are very accepting of their partners not being virgins, but I also know some guys who prefer that their gf's be virgins because they don't like the idea that she's been touched by other guys in her previous relationships.

I've discussed this matter with 2 of my guy friends and received 2 different opinions in response.


Guy 1: "I don't care whether or not she's a virgin. In fact, I prefer that she isn't a virgin because she'd have more experience, thus better sex. I don't mind that she's slept with guys before, as long as their relationship was serious, and she wasn't just screwing any random guy."

This is a guy who understands both sides. He's aware that if guys are to be judged on a level of virginity (pennisginity), only a 3percent of adult will make it. And like I said a tokunbo has faced the realities of the road, and will be extra careful in tolling that road again.


Guy 2: "Call me selfish, but I would rather date a virgin. Let me just ask you this: Would you rather buy a used car, or a new car? Honestly, I think most guys would prefer to date a girl who's never been touched before. As for experience, well, there's always a first time for everybody, and the virgin girl can always learn.

I don't what to say about this guy, as I do not belong to this school of thought. But he's got he's reasons well stated.

What i opined is that choosing who to date whether based on judging whether she's a virgin or not, should be a thing of self. You should know what you want and don't use what you want to influence what other people want. Getting a tear rubber or tokunbo is a matter of fate. No matter how much u scrutinize before dating if you are not destined to date a virgin, you won't get one.

Do not discriminate! You don't know what the tokunbo have been through. Go for your choice, let other go for what they want without interference.

Tear rubber or tokunbo, ki oluwa maa so wa ni (may the lord guide us).