Wasted Years

It is hard to let go and this story is not different from other stories of holding on to an EX thinking one day he/she is gonna come back to you.

Leye and Bola started dating when Bola was admitted into the same school as Leye. Leye was in 200L at this moment and the gap between them was appropriate. Leye loved Bola very much, at every opportunity he shows this love. Bola, well..... likes Leye (Shit! This is just wrong, she doesn't love him?). Often Leye complains about Bola's attitude and idea of not reciprocating his gestures. This was an issue that hanged over their relationship. And most times Leye's friends will tell him how cute they were but they never knew they had issues of her not loving back. Or what is the essence of loving a spouse without him/her loving you back? Despite Bola's various short comings Leye never stopped loving her, never wanted to leave her. But on a val's day which left an indelible mark in Leye's love life, bola dropped the bombshell. After a wonderful night out, Bola told Leye of her intention to end their 15 months relationship (cruel innit?). Saying she doesn't feel he's 'the one' (WTF is the one :/). Leye was absolutely devastated :'( cried himself to sleep like a baby that night.

*fasts forward to years later*

Leye and Bola got talking again, became kind of close :D (friend zone?). Between, Leye had been in 2 different relationships and just got out of the 2nd relationship, just because he was still in love with Bola while in those relationships. While Bola had remained single ever since waiting for 'the one' =)). In one of their talks (BBM chat). Bola told Leye that she still has feelings for him, which she has been trying not to admit. While discussing one thing led to another and they agreed to see the possibility of dating again. Leye was in Abuja where he's serving and Bola was still school in her final year. Bola told Leye if he wanted her he should come see her in school. Leye had plan to go see her when the opportunity comes. After a month Leye pinged Bola with the intention of informing her of his coming that weekend. They were gisting about 'friendzone' after a recent campaign of a mutual friend. (you know normal random gist before saying want you want say). And then Bola told him that he is actually in her friend zone :O. Leye then reminded her of her utterances that if he loves and wants her he should come see her in school (like prince charming going to rescue princess Fiona from her ivory tower). Bola was like 'what if I say I'm not saying that again nko, Talomamumisi, emi ni mo ni adegun mo de ni adeogun mo'. And after years of waiting for her to come back to him, she broke his heart again. Leye wasted 15months with her and another two years waiting for her to come back into his arms.

*clears throat* babes wicked sha. Leye had thot that he's love was back to him, but it was not to be. Leye's love for Bola changed to hate, contempt to a point that she disgust him.

This is why sometimes hanging on to that EX you are still in love with is not good. Let them go, if you were special and they really loved you then they won't let go. There's a limit of how close you can get with your ex, because feelings you had then can resurface.

All I can say for those in a similar situation, is to be strong, always maintain your dignity and integrity, and remain hopeful that everything will be okay. Don't let people play with your emotions. No need put by ebenezer olufioye, just leave am like that, no put by anybody.